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Is It Really Sex Addiction, or Just a High Sex Drive? It’s one of the first questions men ask when they sit down in my office. Sometimes they ask it defensively, hoping the answer lets them off the hook. Other times they ask it with genuine confusion, because they’ve been told by a pastor, a […]

Why Avoiding Conflict Is Slowly Killing Your Marriage Most men I work with in my counseling practice in Atlanta would describe themselves as “peacemakers.” They don’t like to argue. They don’t like drama. When their wife brings up a sensitive topic, their instinct is to either fix the problem immediately or withdraw until the storm

Why Your Secrets Are the Real Addiction When a man first sits down in my office in Atlanta for sex addiction counseling, he usually wants to talk about the behavior. He wants to talk about the websites, the frequency, the money spent, or the close calls. He wants a strategy to stop doing the thing

Why “Fine” and “Angry” Aren’t Enough: The Case for Emotional Vocabulary If you ask the average man how he’s doing, you will almost certainly get one of three answers: “Good,” “Fine,” or “Busy.” If you push a little harder, or if he’s in the middle of a conflict, you might see a fourth emotion: Anger. For

Why Every Man Needs Something That Doesn’t “Matter” Take a look at the calendar of the average married man in his thirties, forties, or fifties, and you will see a life entirely consumed by utility. Every hour is accounted for by something that matters: work, providing for the family, driving kids to practice, mowing the

Why Your Accountability Partner Isn’t Helping You Stop Watching Porn If you’ve been trying to quit watching pornography, you’ve probably heard the same piece of advice a hundred times: “You need an accountability partner.” So, you asked a friend from church, a guy from your small group, or a mentor to check in on you.

The Myth of the Lone Wolf: Why Men Need Other Men There is a powerful script that many men in our culture live by. It’s the idea of the “lone wolf”. The rugged individualist who doesn’t need anyone, who handles his problems on his own, and who never asks for help. We see it in

How Do I Tell My Wife I Have a Porn Addiction? The Difference Between Confession and Disclosure Of all the questions I hear as a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist in Atlanta, this is the one that carries the most fear. For a man who has been hiding his porn use, the thought of bringing it

What to Do When You Feel Stuck: A Practical Guide for Men There’s a feeling many men know intimately but rarely talk about. It’s the sense of being stuck. It’s not a crisis, not a dramatic breakdown, but a quiet, grinding exhaustion. You’re going through the motions—work, family, church, repeat—but the sense of purpose and

Healthy Ways to Express Anger: A Guide for Men Anger gets a bad rap. For many men, especially Christian men, it feels like a forbidden emotion—something to be suppressed, ignored, or prayed away. We’re taught that “good men” don’t get angry. But in my work as a therapist for men in Georgia, I see the